Men, Lead Your Families by Melvin Otey

  • Genesis 18 
  • Genesis 19
  • Genesis 26

Men Lead their homes

  • Education – teach the wife who can share in teaching kids
  • By example ( for kids and the wife)
  • Environment – secure. Comfortable. Safe. Open. Special. As a team. 

A husband should be able to say, Listen that’s not OK you don’t see me speaking like that

Servant leadership

And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. (Deuteronomy 6:6-7, ESV)

The man needs to make sure that every day in his house the word of God is read. To keep bad spiritual influences out. To pray every day. Sing

Jesus Grew Mentally and We Should Too by Melvin Otey

  • Jesus Increased in Wisdom
    • Several Hebrew words are used in the Old Testament
      • Expertise in living
        • Understanding
        • Knowledge
        • Discernment
        • Judgement
        • Wisdom
      • The Mental Skill of Sound Judgement
  • The New Testament Uses the word “Wisdom”
    • the skill in managing life and how to navigate them
  • The Value of Wisdom – Proverbs 8:10
  • Wisdom is better than money
    • How much effort do we put into acquiring Wisdom compared to how much effort we put in to acquiring money
  • Wisdom is better than Weapons of War – Ecc 7:19
  • Wisdom is a defense – Ecc 7:12
  • The Source of Wisdom is God
    • God blessed Solomon with Wisdom
    • Wisdom on earth is not like the wisdom of God – James 3:17 
  • Wisdom Will Give You Life
  • Seeking Wisdom Proverbs 2:1-5
  • Wisdom is not a simple understanding of facts
    • Understanding what is going on in the world we live in and understand what the will of the Lord is as we navigate life – Ephesians 5:15-17
  • How Can I Develop Wisdom?
    • Prayer
      • God Blessed Solomon with wisdom
      • He wants us to ask for wisdom – James 1:5
    • The Book of Proverbs Should Be Read Continually
      • If you are interested in increasing in wisdom, Proverbs is your best friend
      • The book is written to help us grow and increase in wisdom
      • Spend every morning with a chapter from the book of Proverbs
    • Focus on the people the Bible tells us are wise
      • JosephGenesis 41, Acts 7
      • MosesActs 7
      • Joshua – Duet 34
      • David1 Samuel 18
      • JesusMatt 13
      • We need to understand earthly things so we can apply the wisdom that is from above to these earthly circumstances
      • Ask yourself what did they do and why did that do it?
      • Spend time with people who are wiser and more experienced than we are – Prov 13:20
      • Well Advised People Make Better Decisions
        • The Bible tells the older women are to teach the younger women
          • if younger women spend time with older women that experience can be transferred
      • Learn From Mistakes
        • Learning From Our Mistakes
        • Learn From the Mistakes of Others – 1 Corinthians 10:11
          • Remember Lots Wife – Luke 17
          • The Destruction of Sodom and Gomorrah
      • Wisdom Comes from Experience/Practice – Job 12:12
      • “Wisdom is not a product of schooling but of the lifelong attempt to acquire it.” — Albert Einstein
      • Wisdom does not come from school
      • Try Different Approaches – Ecc 11:6
      • People don’t become experts overnight. People become experts at God’s business by prayer, intense study of God’s word, and paying attention to what other people have done before, good and bad and learning from their mistakes
      • Jesus Increased in Wisdom by Working at It